There is something to be said about silence being golden. This phrase may sound familiar as it was drilled in many our heads since childhood. Particularly by our mothers, often exercising their maternal right to have the final word. I think of it when trying to refrain from going off on a complete stranger who cut me off on the highway during a grueling morning commute. In that moment of feeling violated, screwed over, and invisible, I tell myself that this vehicular Scrooge doesn’t know me personally. I let it go and try my best not to allow it ruin the rest of my day. Sometimes it’s best to remain quiet and not react.
The price for the surgery will vary from surgeon to surgeon, and possibly what exactly you’re having done in your unique situation.
The same rule of thumb however, shouldn’t apply to asking someone burning questions regarding how they overcame an insecurity or challenge that has plagued them for years. It is often the silent struggle, that is relatable and inspires many who secretly wish to conquer something in their own lives.
At the time I shared my experience with gynecomastia surgery and initial recovery, the sound of crickets from many uninterested men was deafening. All it took was a quick search on YouTube to know that I was not alone in my struggle. It still however, as arduous as my story was, not something men were connecting to, or felt comfortable discussing at all. Regardless of the lack of feedback, I thought of the questions I would have (had I not gone through with the surgery) that might resonate with brothers who are dealing with the uncomfortable, and challenging experience of living with enlarged, female like breasts.
Although I’ve seen dozens of questions online from men who are curious about, or have gone through the experience of gynecomastia surgery, here are the top 5 that you might be afraid to ask:
1. How much does gynecomastia surgery cost? Before I get into dollars and cents, let me begin by saying I hate this question. If you had something you wanted, that was completely obtainable if you worked towards it, would you do it? The answer should be yes! For every time I’ve seen this question posed to online personalities, I would wonder what could the inquiring man adjust in his budget to allow himself to pay for gynecomastia treatment. The price for the surgery will vary from surgeon to surgeon, and possibly what exactly you’re having done in your unique situation. I’ve known guys who’ve shelled out anywhere from $4,000 to $6,000. I also know of one brother who was able to have the cost covered by insurance. There are very specific circumstances that this is covered so please do your due diligence in researching during your consultation period.
2. Was the surgery necessary? Now this is a loaded question layered with suspicion and judgement by inquiring minds. People may argue that one is seeking treatment to be deemed more attractive and appealing to potential partners. You may even be lectured into believing that your body is enough, and anyone worth having romantically in your life, should love you just as you are. Man boobs and all. To that I say their right!
My counter argument to that however, is anything you desire to change in order better yourself whether it is spiritual, physical, or emotional is worth it! In my own life, it was the same people who treated their stomachs like trash cans and made fun of my healthy eating habits that also thought my decision to have the surgery was excessive, self serving, and a waste of hard earned money.
At seven months post surgery, I’m still excited at the results that have proven to be life altering. I also know many other men who share my freedom from the chains of living with enlarged breasts. Was it all worth it?- in the words of Sex And The City’s Mr. Big, “Absofuckinglutely!”
3. Were you afraid to tell people that you had man boobs? – YES. I still feel some type of way about it. How many people do you know would be comfortable telling people, especially men, that not only are you suffering from gynecomastia, but you were actually going to do something about it? There was however, a comforting factor when I discovered that celebrities (allegedly) such as Dwayne Johnson, and popular Instagram trainers also experienced a bout with the embarrassing, and possible socially limiting condition.
The good news is you’re not alone and although there are some contributing factors to gynecomastia, no man sets out intentionally to have man boobs. To put it directly, you can’t help it! Trust that there is treatment and a freedom which awaits you. I promise it will be the gift that keeps on giving!
4. Will my chest look natural post surgery and recovery? Let me reiterate my response in question one of doing your research of successful, reputable surgeons, and surgical centers. Just like your worthiness on this planet, it matters.
It’s important to check out the before and after pictures of your selected surgeon including patients who fit your build and level of gynecomastia. That would be a good indicator of your end result. You also have to take in consideration your skin’s elasticity and other factors so ask plenty of questions with your surgeon during your pre- op appointment. If all your questions aren’t answered, go elsewhere.
I was very proud of my results. With little scarring and the level of care my surgeon executed, my results via Lexington Plastic Surgeons were amazing. Be confident after your first consultation and pre-op meeting, before you go under the knife. If you do, there shouldn’t be any reason why you would be unhappy with your recovery and overall look of your new masculine chest.
5. Will people notice if you’ve had gynecomastia surgery? My personal experience is that they would not. I cannot stress enough the importance of experienced, personable, and dedicated surgeons. With this in place, the only people who would know you’ve had surgery are those who either knew of your struggle, or they simply noticed your chest got smaller. They may even attribute it to you kicking ass in the gym.
A little fun tidbit is that my procedure inspired me to be the best version of myself physically. My nutrition and gym workouts were on fire once I was cleared to work out. You too can have that same motivation now that your chest matches the image of yourself that has always been in your head.
If you couldn’t tell from my previous posts about my personal journey with gynecomastia, I’m pretty passionate about the subject. I’ve always been an advocate of not waiting to live your life and taking action in order to do so.
There are so many things we desire that are outside of our comfort zone. I believe if you’re courageous enough to ask for what your want, no matter how scary it might be, you would also be willing to ignore the fear to seek bliss on the other side of it.