What Would We Lose by Defining Who We Are As Men?
If we stepped into the light–finally becoming visible for the multi-dimensional, powerful, beings we are–we could move mountains. Ruelon.com unapologetically stands for the support and visibility of same gender loving men of color.
The Big Little Lies Same Gender Loving Men Are Clinging To
All that glitters isn’t gold my mother used to say. I remember she would express this sentiment when I was stuck comparing myself to the lives of others. Although I didn’t quite understand the meaning when I was a child, it would hit me like enormous waves pounding on...
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Real Men Don’t Eat Salads!
Real men don’t eat salads! Apparently, this was an unwritten rule I must have missed while being asleep during toxic masculinity 101 in high school. That last part was not a real class, but the savvy reader that you are got the implied sarcasm right? A colleague...
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Conquering The Gyno Beast, Toxic Masculinity, & Old Beliefs: A Gynecomastia Journey Through Shame And Coming Out On Top – Part 3
Comparison is the thief of joy. I’ve heard this saying for the first time over the summer from a mentor and it seemed to haunt me ever since. It’s not that I haven’t heard some form of this concept before but it was something about the thief part that vexed me. The...
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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall : A Gynecomastia Journey Through Shame And Coming Out On Top – Part 2
I wasn’t concerned about the lighting tonight. It was not about taking a million selfies, only to weed out the bad ones. These last few photographs were about me seeing myself in all my gynecamastia glory for the very last time. I wanted a snapshot of what got me to...
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Let’s Talk About The Big Gyno in the Room: A Gynecomastia Journey Through Shame And Coming Out On Top – Part 1
We live in a world where social media and its influence is a beast to say the least. It has, particularly as it relates to men, allowed us to join the club of our women counterparts with being objectified whether voluntary or involuntarily. In a time where the amount...
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Tall And Tan And Young And Lovely: The Men From Santo Domingo
I can never sleep the night before I am to travel abroad. Double checking my flight status, making sure I’ve packed my flyest gear and necessities, and peeking in the pocket of my duffle bag to ensure my passport is there, all consume me to the point of what I’ve...
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I loved Jamaica But Did It Love Me?
I will never step foot in Jamaica! There are plenty of beautiful places in the Caribbean that will not only embrace me, but also love me the way I love them. This was my travel declaration towards a country that for many years, I had absolutely no desire to allow my...
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The Body Blueprint
I like my dirty martini extra dirty with gin not Vodka. There is only one “The City” and that is New York City. I’ll take Janet over Madonna, the New York Giants over the Jets, and a vacation is not a vacation if your passport isn’t stamped. All of these preferences...
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News Flash: Your New Life & Soul Mate Is Not On Instagram
It’s Slinky; It’s Slinky, the favorite for girls and boys. These are a few of the quirky, yet catchy lyrics for the nostalgic childhood toy first introduced in the 1940’s. Anyone of a certain age certainly remembers the words and can recite them during drunken game...
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The Strong Ones Need Support Too
It was a purposefully slow, and tranquil Saturday afternoon that I decided it would be an ideal time for a workout at the gym. Just as I suspected, the gym was practically empty and I was beginning to catch my stride on the treadmill. As I skipped through a few...
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7 Great Things About Being A Man Over 35
I often sit in a place of gratitude that my life is one that I’m extremely joyful about. Some of the things and people I enjoy daily are completely an intentional effort, and by my design. None of them existed when I was still struggling to find my way as a young...
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Can We Talk About Loving and Living Life In Our 40’s?
Can we talk here? I feel the need to channel the legendary Joan Rivers right about now. Although I’m not sure why, her voice popped into my head as I thought about the level of enthusiasm, gratitude, and pride I feel when I talk about the friends in my life, our...
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