What Would We Lose by Defining Who We Are As Men?
If we stepped into the light–finally becoming visible for the multi-dimensional, powerful, beings we are–we could move mountains. Ruelon.com unapologetically stands for the support and visibility of same gender loving men of color.
Why Suicide Wasn’t Good Enough: Part Three
I had been stripped of everything I knew and possessed. I was cut down to the white meat as my cousin would say. It was deep and there was no bandage large enough to cover my wounds. One day when the pain of failure was just too much for me to handle, I went running....
Why Suicide Wasn’t Good Enough: Part Two
I fought for as long as I could to maintain my life as I knew it. Unfortunately, I lost that battle and I was being forced out my life, my city, and my peace. When I finally broke down to tell my sister I was undone and couldn’t hold on to my way of life, she said in...
Why Suicide Wasn’t Good Enough: Part One
Famed fashion designer Kate Spade and I share the same birthday. I was obsessed with the Travel channel’s No Reservations and CNN’s Parts Unknown, both hosted by the popular, and semi-nomadic chef Anthony Bourdain. He combined two of my favorite pastimes in the world,...
Is Your International Vacation Too American?
Take me to where the real people are! I say this once I arrive at any new international destination. I don’t however, always accomplish my goal of seeing how the every day locals of any given country actually live outside the illusion of luxurious , Americanized...
Janet Jackson Is Showing Us The Way To Bliss: Are You Listening?
The iconic and incomparable Janet Jackson has cured an ailing music scene with yet another feel good musical summer groove. The ever-evolving Queen of danceability last graced us with her presence when she dropped the spiritually induced Unbreakable album in 2015....
What If I Hadn’t Come Out Of The Closet?
Hiding is easy. Subscribing to the Matrix and all its programmed bells and whistles is comforting. Pleasing family, churches, and our social media followers at the expense of our well being is celebrated, and encouraged. It’s what you do! We are creatures of habit...
The Top 5 Questions About Gynecomastia You Might Be Afraid To Ask
There is something to be said about silence being golden. This phrase may sound familiar as it was drilled in many our heads since childhood. Particularly by our mothers, often exercising their maternal right to have the final word. I think of it when trying to...
Figuring My Sh*T Out: Don’t Take it Personal
I’ve always hated the saying “when it rains it pours.” For starters, it took me becoming old enough to fully realize the brevity of those words that I’ve heard my father speak of many times throughout my life. As a child, I was such a dreamer and much like now, very...
When Are You Too Old To Party?
When I was a young boy, I constantly heard from my parents, aunts, and uncles, that eventually, I would settle down and get married. I would go through the the traditional rites of passage such as graduating high school, college, and find a beautiful woman to marry...
Is Your City Giving You What You Need?
Human beings are experts at NOT being human. We are hopelessly codependent on the love of our lives that continuously gets the sensuous touch of our fingertips and that long, passionate gaze. I’m not talking about your gym crush, high school sweetheart, or adoring...
The Vacation You: Fact Or Fiction
Gut wrenching laughter with friends by poolside bars, creating new connections with vibrant personalities from Canada, England, and Brazil, and anxiously awaiting the opening of beachside jerk chicken huts, may mean that one is on vacation. For many people, this time...
The Arc Of Gay Men
It was early afternoon on a surprisingly mild, spring day in northern New Jersey. I was deciding whether to get a gym workout in, or stay at home plotting my world domination. Okay maybe that last part was a bit dramatic because it was more like I pulled a muscle...